If you have a relationship with a survivor, and I need pops up, you have a choice to make. You can pray. You can pray and see how you can help without enabling, and/or you can pray, see how you can help, and mention the specific need on Facebook, without names.
I immediately started getting responses – the first of which was a phone call from a friend of mine who’d just moved to Texas, and she wanted to use their tithe funds to help out! She bought a Boppy, grooming kit and a super cute and pretty costly bouncer. 😳
Other comments started pouring in:
“Just got breast pump & accessories kit. You’re listed as alternative pick-up person at the Sherwood location :)”
“I wish I could do more. Kind of like trying to choose Christmas gifts for kids in need- want to get it all!!”
“Thanks. They don’t have her diaper backpack at Sherwood 😔” (This friend purchased a $50 Eddie Bauer deluxe diaper backpack online and had it shipped direct!)
“Chelan, order 102825229756 is waiting for you at Sherwood. :)” (0-3 mo. baby clothes and mittens)
At the shower, I just kept handing her various presents and she was so confused and happy. “Who are all these people you know?!”
I think that I got such a great response because the Facebook post had these three elements:
- It was a specific need for a specific person
- It incorporated team-work. I said I was willing to go pick it up at my local Target, wrap and deliver it.
- It was brief and to the point. People can lose interest if you go on and on about a need, even if they have a heart to help.
So that was a cool little unintended experiment that I plan to conduct again and again. And I hope you do too! The girls are worth every bit of energy, time and attention you can give them. Really, it all equals love.